The One Concept You Need to Know to Get Everything You Want
So I have been talking about this concept for a while.
Most people I share it with tell me it’s unique. They tell me it changes their perception and makes it super easy to figure out what they’re doing wrong.
And more importantly, to figure out what to do from there.
It’s a simple, one-focus way to think about life, love and everything. And it solves the knots we get tied into from time to time trying to make something happen that’s just not happening.
I call it… Degrees of separation.
Okay Joe, are you talking about 6 Degrees of Separation from Kevin Bacon? The theory that all actors are at most 6 degrees of separation from K.B. when you trace the movies they’ve worked on together?
That’s a cool concept, but no. Also dated reference dude… update your pop culture stuff.
It’s simpler than that…
How many degrees of separation are you from what you want?
Too abstract? I don’t blame you. It’s a revolutionary new concept, it may take a few moments for you to grasp it. So I’ll explain it for you.
If I enjoy life unconditionally, I am operating at 0 degrees of freedom.
If I want $1,000,000, and I am looking for $1,000,000 so I can enjoy life I am operating at 1 degree of freedom.
If I want $1,000,000 and I am looking for a business to create to make $1,000,000 so I can enjoy life I am operating at 2 degrees of freedom.
If I want $1,000,000 and I am looking for a mentor to help me find a business plan to make $1,000,000 so I can enjoy life I am operating at 3 degrees of freedom.
See what I mean?
Most of us operate at 1 or two degrees of freedom, and some of us at 3 or more - the super active, stressed-out type A’s who tend to be politicians or in some other sort of conflict-centered profession. The law-of-attraction spiritual gurus tend to operate at 0 degrees of freedom.
To alleviate chaos, to create a sense of control, we tend to create rules for society. These rules take away uncertainty… or at least try to, in order to make life more predictable.
Want a computer? Okay, go earn $2,000 then you can exchange your money for the computer and enjoy the journey. The concept of earning something is this 2-degrees-of-freedom from your enjoyment of the journey of life.
And one or two degrees of freedom can be pretty free… It’s not ideal but it takes away a lot of the uncertainty for people who are in the process of just enjoying the journey, but are a bit hesitant to be that vulnerable right away.
The problem lies where you operate from too many degrees of freedom… It detaches you from the fulfillment of your desires, turns your life from a pick-what-you-can orchard of abundance into a frustrating chess game against yourself.
Say I want the ability to buy what you want without worry…
Okay. So I follow the culturally-accepted path of going to college to get a job to get money to live comfortably.
So I take a loan for college…. That’s one degree. I go to college, that’s another degree. I apply for jobs and get one, that’s a third degree. I use the job to get money and finally live comfortably… That’s four degrees.
So now I’m living comfortably… What if I get sick? I risk losing my job. What if no jobs want my skills? I’m stuck in student debt. What if I can’t get into a school? I’m screwed. What if I don’t have time to do anything else in life? I get frustrated and I’m not enjoying life anymore…
The problem in this way of thinking is that there are too many moving parts, and our energy, focus and concentration is scattered.
In contrast here’s a better, more fulfilling way to think and live. I foresaw this problem of degrees of freedom when I was in College, doing well studying Computer Science at Rutgers, with an IT job with room for improvement and a presidency in a programming club. I had a gorgeous girlfriend who was very dedicated to me, was smart, and an inspiration in many ways.
The problem came when I started to realize I was restricting my freedom… The more I did what I was doing, the less room I had to move… If I wanted free time I had to sacrifice my grades, or my job, or my presidency position, or my relationship.
My position wasn’t of enjoying the journey (0 degrees of freedom) it was of doing something so that I could achieve something else, so I could achieve yet another something, so I could get something so I could relax and enjoy myself.
Ugh. I was so frustrated.
I decided to find a more direct way to live life comfortably… I decided writing, video and podcasting was the way and I created a blog in order to make this all happen. I could do what I wanted, when I wanted, and make money by telling people about it.
The problem was when I wanted to cut ties to the structures I thought were necessary - when I neglected my studies realizing I didn’t like programming that much my girlfriend got frustrated.
And my dad stopped paying for my housing and food.
But I knew I needed to do it. So I dropped out of college, broke up with my girlfriend, found ways to make money (and admittedly manipulated my dad into supporting me against his values for a while… an act I paid for karmically and to an extent still am) and networked to find others who could guide me along the journey.
As you know, if you’ve been a long term fan, I have achieved a lot of what I wanted to do… I traveled the USA a couple years ago, the world last year, and I intend to explore more of what life has to offer going forward.
The Spot of Joe is now a more direct connection between myself and what I desire, and hopefully inspires you to learn from my journey and experiences towards living in a state of 0 degrees of freedom from enjoying the journey of life.
And here’s my homework… Think. How many degrees of freedom are you from enjoying life as it comes? Write in the comments, or email firstname.lastname@example.org if you want just me to read it.
I’ll read all of them. I may not reply.